PART ONE. I recently went through a very tough first breakup. We were reaching our six month marker and I knew that this meant we would last for as long as we thought imaginable. Everyday we would confess our love for one another and express our feelings, we would kiss eachother goodbye at school, and then get home at talk for hours over social media that night.
(cont’d) It might sound obsessive or overly attached but both of us had social lives away from eachother and we made sure we didn’t spend too much time incase we became overly attached. Anyway, over the holidays she seemed to fall out of our love, not some puppy first love, we both meant a whole lot to each other and this was real for both of us. She told me she couldn’t take the pressure of a relationship anymore, something very hard for both of us because we had been through a lot that year.
The pressure she was feeling was from her ‘friends’ because they claimed she wasnt spending enough time with them, which in fact she was, it was their jealous illusion (not a biased opinion). I am deeply troubled like this and I still have the same feelings for her as I have the whole relationship, and she tells me she misses me, but I just can’t accept that. I am very upset and can’t seem to find a point of my life anymore, she doesn’t seem to really care. Please give advice.
Pressures can come from all sides when in a relationship, and people handle them differently, especially when they’re young. What’s important about that is that the other person has to accept how they react and accept their choices, even if they don’t agree. If you two are really meant to be, you’ll come back to each other again, but at this point in time I think you should try to move on as best as you can, go out with friends or get involved with something that keeps your mind busy. It’s not easy, but it’s a way to get time to pass.
If you want to have hope that she’ll eventually miss you enough to realize she made a mistake, you can, but I think it’s also important to accept that sometimes relationships end just because they end, there’s no definitive answer exactly. They end when they’re meant to, they start again if they’re meant to, and new ones come along as they’re meant to. Stay strong and remember you’re young and have your whole life ahead of you. Don’t let one relationship drag you down to the point where you don’t see that.